The trend of life unloading bundles on me continues. No progress in weeks and suddenly my inbox is overflowing with girls (well for me anyways), 4 live ones last night. Patterns abound as well, two supposed ‘virgins’, one, an early twenties who has only fooled around with girls and toys, and another, a late teens who claims she’s never done anything. The former hasn’t gotten back to me, but she did message late. The latter I sent some pics to and she sent a bunch back. She is a fair skinned Latina, very pretty (just a reminder folks, scrub images you send to people on the internet of location data, I vet all images sent to me by doing two reverse images searches and checking EXIF data, because she didn’t scrub her images, I now have this girl’s home address, where she lived last year, what phone and camera she owns, and where she goes to school, not that I would ever use that information, but less savory individuals might).
Then there was another early twenties Latina, also thin and short and beautiful, but she didn’t notice the “married” part of the ad, we went back and forth for a good while, totally on board, then “wait what WIFE????”. This happens every once in a while, I wonder how much better my responses would be if I didn’t mention I was married in my ads, but I figure being up front is probably good for saving everyone’s time.
Most of the time when I answer w4m ads (legit ones, I am now up to almost 100% success rate of picking out the scammers and bots) I mention up front that I’m married, 70% of the time I get no response, 20% of the time they say they aren’t interested because I’m married, 5% of the time they say I should get a divorce, and the other 5% of the time they reply interested, but thus far none of those have ever gone anywhere. You figure with demographics, most people you talk to aren’t going to end up having sex with you, which means of the handful that I talk to, my chances are slim of sleeping with them. And, there are generally only 1-3 legit w4m ads posted daily, to hundreds and hundreds of m4w ads, I have to renew ads three times a day just to ensure I have an ad on the first two screen scrolls. It is an ugly numbers game.
Well, all this to say I accidentally (really!) broke my rule, I answered a w4m ad but I forgot to mention I was married (too busy talking with the other 3 I guess), I was a bit horrified after messaging back and forth with this girl for the better part of 20 messages and then realized she doesn’t know that I’m married because I forgot to mention it. In any case, we’ve exchanged pictures and phone numbers, I think she is beautiful, she thinks I’m handsome. She is very specific about wanting no-strings attached (NSA) casual sex. She seems real enough, not a scammer as far as I can see, decent grammar and spelling. She’s my age, and kind of looks like an older Sierra but classier and with long hair (another Latina, not sure what it is about Thursday nights now). I’m really not sure what to do now, we chatted till close to 1 am, and she wants to talk more today. She seems really into the NSA thing:
I am interested in having a true affair partner, but perhaps a ‘one-night stand’ with a beautiful lady like this wouldn’t be so bad. I should probably just come clean because we are talking a whole lot more than NSA (TroubledTide and I agree that true NSA doesn’t exist, there is always some string) would suggest, but I can’t decide. If I say I’m married, 90% sure that means ‘goodbye’ as usual, and probably pissed at me for omitting that tidbit. Amazingly, she claims she hasn’t had sex in a year, I admitted it had been about a month for me (I think? losing track lately) and we talked surface level about Sierra (not the blackmail part, just that she was a ‘friend with benefits’). I remember Mommy (the tranny), told me that she/he wished I had never told him about my marriage, that the truth hurts and I shouldn’t tell anyone I’m having casual sex with in the future. I can’t decide if that would be ethical or not, I mean you don’t need someone’s life story to have sex with them right? But partner status does seem to be pretty standard information to share (as you can see, the majority of women are not comfortable sleeping with a married man), I digress, I’m not an ethical person I know, I can lie to my wife, but not to a stranger on the internet? What a contradiction. This whole thing has thrown me a bit and I’m stuck how to proceed. I’m very tempted to see what would happen if I met her for sex and didn’t tell her that I’m married, but that feels sleazy.